Dating rules for teenage guys
Plus, it could cause friction between you and your date, and the last thing you'd want is to end up in a mighty Red State/Blue State battle over margaritas.
A better rule: Though you don't need to demand to know on date number two how he voted in the last presidential election, "you do eventually want to know these vital things about a potential partner," says Dr. "You might as well get things out of the way that could be deal breakers down the line." Plus, if you find out that your views are aligned—or even if they clash in just the right way—you've got some spirited and interesting conversations ahead. If you're divorced, wait one month for each year you were married before dating.
Your friend, colleague or mother might tell you this rule in a kind attempt to keep you from leaping into a poor match out of post-divorce loneliness, but "these limits are arbitrary, and have nothing to do with when you're really ready to find love again," says Dr. A better rule: Spend time figuring out what you want and then decide when you're ready—either for casual dating or a new relationship. This rule got its start back when nearly all men had more disposable income than women, who were probably dating while still living in their parents' home.
Photo: i Stockphoto This may be an effect of too many romance movies; we all can easily fall under the spell of the idea of love- or lust-at-first-sight, a notion that is as old as Romeo and Juliet.
A better rule: Sure, early on you don't want to blurt out, "If you don't want kids, tell me now." But at the same time, you shouldn't deny your own basic needs, wants or ambitions, says Dr. Don't be afraid of revealing that you're in the market for a long-term serious relationship and potential father for your children, or that you plan to go back to law school or move to Africa.
"Anyone who is scared away by your revelations is someone you want to send packing," says Dr.
Old credos, like waiting a certain number of dates before having sex or insisting that the guy should always pick up the bill, may be officially outmoded, but they still linger in many people's minds. "Because one of these rules might have worked in one situation with one person," says Gary Lewandowski, Jr., Ph D, associate social science professor at Monmouth University in New Jersey—which by no means makes it something that everyone should live by.
Read on for eight dating rules ripe for the breaking.